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Healing, Not Fixing Black Men, Especially When They See the World Differently

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Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors): https://link.sheldongayisbugn.com/s3e25transcript


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Summary:

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Patrice N. Douglas LP, LMFT to explore what neurodivergence can look like through the lived experiences of Black people, particularly Black men. We talk about therapy, masking, survival, relationships, executive functioning, and the ways behaviors can be labeled as lazy, angry, difficult, or defiant when there may be something much deeper happening underneath.


We also dig into why therapy shouldn't be about fixing people, how cultural expectations shape the way neurodivergence is understood, and what becomes possible when we approach ourselves and each other with more curiosity, acceptance, and context. Dr. P also gives us a look at her upcoming workbook for Black men and the bigger goal behind her work: helping Black men exist more happily, authentically, and on their own terms.


Key Topics:

  • How neurodivergence can reshape a Black man's identity
  • When survival gets mistaken for defiance or laziness
  • Why understanding yourself matters more than fixing yourself
  • How cultural expectations shape the way Black men show up
  • Making room for authenticity, acceptance, and joy

Stay in Contact with Dr. Patrice N. Douglas:

  • Check out her website and PRE-ORDER HER BOOK!: https://patricendouglas.com/
  • Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepatricenicole/

Resources and Links:

  • Direct link to pre-order or purchase her book: https://patricendouglas.com/the-neurodivergent-workbook/
  • Learn more about "DSM-5 For the Culture": https://drpatricendouglas.thinkific.com/pages/dsm-5-for-the-culture
  • Read her dissertation on "Barriers to Mental Health Treatment for African American Men": https://www.proquest.com/openview/9c451c0f0211c121064ea37ecf08e8d8/1?pq-origsite=gscholar&cbl=18750&diss=y
  • Read "Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome" by Dr. Joy DeGruy: https://www.joydegruy.com/post-traumatic-slave-syndrome?utm_source=chatgpt.com
  • Read "Misbelief" by Dan Ariely: https://misbeliefbook.com/
  • Read "The Experience Machine" by Andy Clark: https://www.amazon.com/Experience-Machine-Minds-Predict-Reality/dp/1524748455


Helpful Links:

  • Hire me to speak or as your personal gifted self-discovery coach!: https://sheldongayisbugn.com
  • Free list of Therapists for Melanated and Marginalized Groups: https://sheldongayisbugn.com/#resources
  • Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG
  • ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app
  • Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/resources


Keywords:

neurodivergent Black men, Black men and neurodivergence, Black men mental health, neurodivergent Black men therapy, Black men and therapy, healing Black men, neurodivergence and identity, neurodivergence and masking, autism in Black men, ADHD in Black men, Dr. Patrice Douglas, The Neurodivergent Workbook


Intro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "Understand" from the album Nevermore

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